Forgiveness is a powerful catalyst, that can certainly be offered to someone who genuinely feels remorse. However, forgiveness is often best applied to ourselves. What does that mean? Sometimes in life, we expect to receive an apology from someone we feel hurt by, but we all know that doesn't always happen. Narcissists and psychopaths don't apologize much, therefore our healing becomes our responsibility solely. We can learn to integrate forgiving ourselves, for desiring the apology, rather than focusing on forgiving the other persons behavior. This helps to return the power of self validation back to ourselves.

Self-healing manifests from training ourselves to transmute painful experiences into purposeful catalysts. Perhaps the only way to be free of deep life-long resentments is to create a way to feel gratitude for the experiences and unpleasant emotions. This requires us to "let go" of needing to be validated or apologized to for hurts, and emotional traumas. There is always a yin to the yang or a positive to balance the negative within each experience.

This doesn't mean we heal ourselves from life-long trauma, by running back to the abuser or individual that we feel hurt by, to tell them we forgive them or ourselves. Some experiences are literally only in our energy fields for certain periods of time, to integrate our souls to understand vast depths of suffering or pain, leading to the discovery of the importance of self-love, and self-respect.

In some cultures, energy and belief is given to theories that project that you are to love others above yourself, and essentially hang yourself on a cross for you to be worthy of pure self-love. We have been around long enough in this lifetime alone, to realize self-love must come 1st for us to be our highest vibration of self.

When we love our whole selves, we experience what love truly means. Many of us were taught to unconditionally love emotionally or psychologically abusive people. This is of course, not a healthy application of unconditional love, primarily originating from religious subconscious programming. Unconditional love is for ourselves, and once we accept ourselves fully, we begin to transmute, and heal all past wounds or traumas in order to hold the vibration of unconditional love in the presence of others. Unconditional love is for YOU 1st!

Declaration

"I forgive myself for desiring an apology, and feeling that I needed someone outside of myself to validate my emotions, and experiences. I forgive those who have hurt me, by transmuting that experience into a purposeful catalyst."

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